I wrote a post on my old website about limiting beliefs and how people can get stuck or a bit lost. The original post was based on a conversation I was having with someone about love.
My views have expanded slightly on the subject of love and especial in this context, but on reading the post, it seemed still valid for gaining an understanding of limiting and conflicting beliefs.
The conversation went something like this:
Is it possible that love is going to ever finish…?
From what I have learned, love is the only thing that exists and creates everything, everyone and all the experiences that have, do and will ever exist.
It is only when things and people do not have love to give that their existence in the universe becomes less enjoyable and eventually they disappear [the broadest definition of death] from the form they [the things, people and experiences] were in and transform into something or someone else [the broadest definition of re-incarnation).
So to briefly answer your question: Love will always be [here], it’s everything and everyone else that does not have love to give, that will “finish”.
If love is in us, then do bad thoughts come out from our mind and why do we do bad things as well?
My reply (the post):
We think “bad” thoughts, have “negative” feelings and do “bad” things because we have limiting and conflicting beliefs both in our conscious and sub-conscious minds, and also because we misinterpret our feelings.
These statements and “what to do” are not easy to elaborate in a few words but let me demonstrate what happens when we have conflicting beliefs by setting a scenario:
- You may have an expectation, which I will call a belief, that your father, due to their experience, is the person to give good honest advice to their child. This belief most probably may have come from someone or something when you were growing up (e.g. family, friends, tv, radio, book, teacher, an experience, etc).
- You do not trust people who are dishonest.
- Your father lives in a “world” where he has to manipulate people, events and facts to do his job. Even though your father supports you and your family, due to your interpretation of how he is and what he does you only see him as dishonest.
- You convinced yourself from an event which happened in the past that people younger than you are less experienced.
- You heard your mother once say that the neighbour’s daughter gives great advice.
All the above information and events can “get into you” as beliefs and perhaps at different stages of your life. These beliefs are in your conscious mind [you think of one of more of them sometimes] and/or in your subconscious mind [you really don’t remember them any more] but if you re-experience situations where any of the beliefs are relevant then you have a related thought or emotion and perhaps react verbally or in action.
Now, with me being also a computer programmer, I would like to look at all this as a computer would to help demonstrate how the mind may work when you’re seeking advice or answers.
01 Get honest advice:
03 Search conscious and sub-conscious minds [databases] for sources of honest advice: 2 sources found: (A) Your father & (B) Young daughter of your neighbour.
04 Use each source of good advice or try again:
05 SOURCE (A): YOUR FATHER: Search databases for integrity of source: Source is not honest so reject and continue:
06 SOURCE (B): NEIGHBOUR’S DAUGHTER: Search databases for integrity of source: Source is younger and hence not experienced so reject and continue:
07 Try again: [go to line 01] 08 }
09 Else if source of honest advice found:
11 Carry/move on and with other aspects of life.
In this case the computer programme would end up in and endless loop between lines 01 and 07 without every getting to line 11 [where you want to be]. The computer would be filling its memory with useless repetitive data such as “get honest advice”, “your father is a source of honest advice”, “your father is not honest”, “get next honest advice”, “neighbour’s daughter is a source of honest advice”, “neighbour’s daughter is too young to give advice”, “try again”…
This may go on in a computer perhaps millions or trillions of times and the computer will slow down or get stuck and will not do anything else. It may start doing odd things and eventually crash when the memory gets filled to maximum with unwanted and useless data. Eventually the computer will need to be switched off and re-booted to clear the memory and the program re-written before it is used again.
Considering the above scenario of trying to find answers, you and your mind are not too dissimilar to how a computer works. The mind can also get filled with conflicting beliefs which create repetitive thoughts that do not serve you and which can slow you down or get you stuck preventing you from doing other things in life [growing].
Such repetitive conflicts of beliefs can make you think, feel and do odd things because your mind will try to find other related and perhaps non-serving thoughts, memories and beliefs to make the limiting or conflicting beliefs work.
Sometimes your thoughts, feelings and actions may not be friendly because they seem to be the only deduction remaining to get you out of the loop you’re in. Without acting on your feelings or removing the beliefs that no longer serve you, the continuing thoughts and feelings can make you mentally or physically ill, as thoughts and feelings are a creative force, and if they don’t create anything outside of you they will create something in you. Ultimately you could crash outright or do something drastic to get out of the loop.
All that is required is to identify limiting and conflicting beliefs and then to “delete” or “re-write” them in you, or at worst put day-to-day life on hold for a while, to re-fresh the mind and re-invent yourself.
I’ve personally been in many situations where I have felt stuck and then had negative emotions and thoughts of negative actions and I know how frustrating it can be when you cannot see a“way out”.
From my research into emotions, in some way there is actually no “way out” and I have found that there are two solutions:
- To go deeper into the negative feelings [as the quote; “you cannot run away from your problems”; a way out is the way in] and use energy transmutation techniques to dissolve and transcend the negativity so that your internal thoughts, emotions and how you react change, external reality changes, or you have a profound insight as to why you are experiencing what you are and what to do about it [a bit like seeing why the computer program above loops and what to do].
- Follow your joy, which may not easy when you are right in the thick of your problems, and this is a separate topic I hope to write about later.
Please contact me, if you think you feel you are stuck, lost, have negative thoughts, feelings or are thinking about or doing something negative, or if you have taken a bigger step and accept that you may have limiting or conflicting beliefs but cannot see a way out.
I may be able to help.
Below are comments to the old post and feel free to comment yourself.